"It’s a terribly scary, anxiety-provoking topic, but the worst thing [for a parent] to do is to stick your head in the sand. We need to help give our kids the skills to deal with a variety of challenges, [from situations] as rare as a stranger abduction or a non-family abduction, to [situations as commonplace as] dealing with coaches and dealing with unwanted approaches—and to be honest—sexual approaches and exploitation."
Rebecca Bailey (Jaycee Lee Dugard's Therapist)
The above caption was taken from an interview whose subject was teaching our Children about predators of all sorts ; abduction, abductors, child molesters sex criminals and increasing awareness for ourselves as adults. This particular portion of her interview correlates exactly with an "agenda of awareness" that I have long been pushing for via this blog, numerous writing projects and victim advocacy on State and National levels.
This is an important article and an unusual one in that it deals with prevention of a variety of crimes and predation upon children women and yes even,men. There are steps we can take as individuals and collectively, to stop this cascade of violence that we have witnessed growing at an alarming rate.
Each one of these "cases" has at its epi-center a veritable smorgasborg of victims that far transcends the literal " victim" whose suffering bleeds into family members community and every empathetic human being that is privy to these crimes.
In recent years, not a week goes by without at least one major violent crime occuring- typcially it is more than one.
Crimes against children touch us worse than any other because they are the epitome of innocence and vulnerability, but we simply cannot afford our traditional view of "innocence" borne of fear rather than apathy - or the commonplace " it wont happen to me" mindset.
If we want out children and future generations of children to survive be whole we must all create a huge shift in our approach to violent crime. Even the mass murders that have become rampant in this country over the last ten years have been unwittingly encouraged via our technological growth ie the internet and other media sources contribute by giving attention and a sick immortality to a brand of people that typically thrive off of this.
In fact many murderers, particularly young, be it a single murder or the mass and serial murders that are on the increase are looking to be infamous, as they cannot or will not attain goals and success in the traditional sense of the word.
If we want out children and future generations of children to survive be whole we must all create a huge shift in our approach to violent crime. Even the mass murders that have become rampant in this country over the last ten years have been unwittingly encouraged via our technological growth ie the internet and other media sources contribute by giving attention and a sick immortality to a brand of people that typically thrive off of this.
In fact many murderers, particularly young, be it a single murder or the mass and serial murders that are on the increase are looking to be infamous, as they cannot or will not attain goals and success in the traditional sense of the word.
It has long been a contention of mine that we cannot afford to put our collective heads in the sands regarding what makes violent crime tick - any more - . A commitment to end apathy borne of denial or discomfiture regarding this ugly side of humanity must begin now.
Ignorance of any kind equates with putting our children and ourselves in harms way this has been proven over and again, this a zealous commitment to arm ourselves with awareness is the answer:
Research folks! Read and delve headlong into all information online, many websites provide information re predators and personality disorders in laymen terms rather than academic nomenclature that many people get lost in. Focus on Men and women with personality disorders and most are not diagnosed this includes Sociopaths narcissistic PD Borderlines personally disorders and several others that can exhibit dangerous behaviors that often slowly show themselves to the people closest to them first .
Ignorance of any kind equates with putting our children and ourselves in harms way this has been proven over and again, this a zealous commitment to arm ourselves with awareness is the answer:
Research folks! Read and delve headlong into all information online, many websites provide information re predators and personality disorders in laymen terms rather than academic nomenclature that many people get lost in. Focus on Men and women with personality disorders and most are not diagnosed this includes Sociopaths narcissistic PD Borderlines personally disorders and several others that can exhibit dangerous behaviors that often slowly show themselves to the people closest to them first .
And then there are those on the periphery of our lives or strangers who are high risk offenders against children for abduction sexual exploitation etc. All of these subjects need to taught to adults before the children in their lives can learn about these life and death issues which can often be difficult to understand and to broach in a balanced and cohesive way which doesn't frighten or harm the child or teen Burt rather empowers them.
Italicized text below excerpt from Time Online
Rebecca Bailey is a psychologist who has helped families like Jaycee Dugard’'s reconnect again after abductions and other abusive situations through a group called Transitioning Families. She is also the co-author of a forthcoming book called Safe Kids, Smart Parents, due out July 2. On May 7, the day after three women who had been missing for about a decade were finally found alive in a home near downtown Cleveland, Bailey talked to TIME about how parents can protect their children from potential abductors and abusers by talking early and often about appropriate interactions with strangers. Ultimately, Bailey says “the inspiration for this book came from Jaycee and her family, and the realization that these non-family abductions often are unpreventable, and nobody should feel blamed.”
Rebecca Bailey is a psychologist who has helped families like Jaycee Dugard’'s reconnect again after abductions and other abusive situations through a group called Transitioning Families. She is also the co-author of a forthcoming book called Safe Kids, Smart Parents, due out July 2. On May 7, the day after three women who had been missing for about a decade were finally found alive in a home near downtown Cleveland, Bailey talked to TIME about how parents can protect their children from potential abductors and abusers by talking early and often about appropriate interactions with strangers. Ultimately, Bailey says “the inspiration for this book came from Jaycee and her family, and the realization that these non-family abductions often are unpreventable, and nobody should feel blamed.”
How can parents make sure an incident like the Cleveland kidnapping ordeal doesn’t happen to their families?
It’s a terribly scary, anxiety-provoking topic, but the worst thing [for a parent] to do is to stick your head in the sand. We need to help give our kids the skills to deal with a variety of challenges, [from situations] as rare as a stranger abduction or a non-family abduction, to [situations as commonplace as] dealing with coaches and dealing with unwanted approaches—and to be honest—sexual approaches and exploitation.
Read more: http://newsfeed.time.com/2013/05/08/avoiding-abduction-3-tips-from-jaycee-dugards-therapist/#ixzz2Sr8N26LZ
