Feeling Empathy For Tsarnev Boston Marathon Bomber / Murderer?

The Jury hasn't yet begun the sentencing phase of Jodi Arias - soft spoken, baby faced convicted murderess of ex boyfriend Travis Alexander, who  stabbed  her ex twenty nine times, shot him in the head and literally cut his throat finally causing the young man's death.

As prosecutor Juan Martinez said so aptly "Travis did not die an easy death."

In truth it had to be a terrifying, painful and awful death,  much like many of the victims of the Boston bombings experienced. Among the dead at the epi-center of the handmade but lethal bombs was an eight year old boy. His mother was critically injured in the blast, his father the only one physically not maimed or dead.

There were hundreds of wounded victims many of whom lost limbs as the bombs were designed with shrapnel and nails , all carefully constructed by two young brothers one of whom survived a police shoot out, the older brother killed in a shootout where one officer was killed and others wounded.

If you wonder how these two terrible sets of crimes intersect in this Post, the answer can be found in of all places,  the  facial features of the young bombing suspect ( he confessed to Police while at the hospital even proffering details of other targets thus its fai to assume he was involved).

We have read quite a bit about the two brother bombers, and most of it paints the substantially older Tamaran as the  " real "culprit" or the at the very least the instigator with his very young and impressionable brother being dragged into Tamarans recently adapted extremist Muslim views.


Tsarnaev,  the surviving younger of the two brothers arrested for the bombings at first cooperated  with police admitting his part in the Bombings. "The plan" involved home made bombs with shrapnel,  nails and ball bearings designed to inflict the most pain and damage to their victims.

One of the three murdered was an eight year old boy. His mother was gravely injured and his father who managed to miraculously escape serious injury, is emotionally devastated by both the event and his losses.

The attached New Yorker article is excellent it takes an honest look at our country's values and mores as it relates to crime and our criminal justice system. This is not done in the usual white bread" journalism" we are accustomed to reading and the milquetoast media's regurgitation of whatever the authorities feed them.

No The New Yorker goes straight to the issue at hand before it has even had a chance to dig its heels in:  A defendant's appearance manner, class distinction and yes communicative abilities and intelligence all weigh in much too heavily and overtly in the outcome of the ultimate adjudication of their crimes.

If the accused is " cute" such as Tsameav could be considered certainly compared to his much more ominous brother Tamaran. Tamaran being older and deceased makes the naturally more likely bad guy" and we american are very prejudice people when it comes to how a person looks.

Lookism.

Sounds much more innocuous than it is even as it affects the hiring process promotions salary ranges and especially as it enters the sacred arena of Lady Justice who remember is blindfolded in a perfect world.

Justice is not blind and as this article makes its point, the young man pictured in the three photos above is almost certainly a pre-meditated  killer of innocents including a child.

Study the differences in his countenance in the first photo with the rose and his boyish tussled look of innocence...with the other two photos taken from cell phones on the day of the bombings.

Notice the expression; there is a smile playing at his lips an arrogance at the mayhem he just caused as the crowds run and the blood in rivulets, this cute tousled young boy does not appear to be an empathetic figure anymore does he?


The point is this; We as individuals and communities society the media all have a part in this - we must begin a retraining process when it comes to our perception of evil and criminals and such facile and random things like physical attributes and manipulative personas that play up their looks their youth their intelligence their childhood abuse et al

Already, like pretty snub nosed Jodi Arias, who managed to garner a large fan club from her arrest throughout the five years until her trial, Boston Marathi bomber Tasmania             would seem to be titillating en masse empathy which correlates with judicial mercy And this empathy is non denominational; It is coming from Christians Muslims, Jews Buddhists alike.


  for his hideous crimes will indeed follow if we allow this type of thinking to permeate out natural human inclination reflexive almost - to want to believe someone that looks cute  is soft spoken has special language skills or talents what have you - a corresponding leniency magically ensues - from our Criminal Judicial system with the Judicial end being most culpable as it is rife with attorneys whose jobs it is to groom violent criminals having long abandoned actual lawyering the most notorious or  successful Lawyers are no more than PR men and women with usually many more resources than their civil servant counterparts.be it through the jury judge even a lawyers zealousness in defending his client and a prosecutors equal vigor and commitment to prosecute to the fullest extent of the law including  the all important sentencing phase.


 It seems as if it should be a no brainier , yet we have seen time and again attractive defendants men and women found innocent by Jury's when evidence is overwhelming against them - or  ridiculously lenient sentences for crimes such as multiple murder rendering plea bargains made with the devil,  despite the degree of depravity and suffering caused by their  crimes.

The senseless maiming and murder caused by the Boston Marathon bombings although not long enough in our rear view window to be fading in our collective hearts and souls, there does appear to be a movement of sorts toward shifting the worst of the blame onto the now dead Tamaran and thereby extending a leniency towards his co murderer and brother. Why?


The author of this piece wisely suggests that once again this young mans baby face and youth have already infiltrated out minds-  an act of crime that has left so many innocent people traumatized and severely wounded many having lost limbs as a result of the blast, as time puts distance between the actual terror blood and trauma, many people within our populace appear to be empathizing somewhat with Tsarney who the family and thus our media is painting as the more innocuous of the hapless terrorist pair, Ive personally read about 60 Posts citing his older brother Tamaran as the  CULPRIT who simply dragged his younger somewhat submissive bother into the fray, first with his extremist Muslim views and than the slow brainwashing that led to one of the worst terrorist acts since 911 on American soil.


As this writer in the  New Yorker  writer so aptly puts it, as a country we have proven ourselves time and again to be too " forgiving"  when it comes to certain criminals only. Notice I didn't say certain crimes. The crimes which the victim or victims are the very embodiment of - actually wind up mattering the least in this our country's sacrosanct Courts,

Jury's are indeed less apt to award the harshest  albeit the appropriate and  just punishments to those convicted men and women who " look a certain way; a way that we equate with attractive, cute, innocent looking, baby faced and countless other adjectives that are equally superfluous.

Jodi Arias was so certain that her looks would completely negate the overwhelming evidence of her violent murder of Travis Alexander, that she was literally ashen faced shocked when the Jury found her guilty of pre - meditated murder! This despite her giving thee three separate stories to Arizona Police about the last day she spent with Travis.


The stories began with I left him alive to two men dressed in masks and black ninja clothing came in and shot Travis while she hid. The last version at this point literally well over a year after this man was butchered in his bathroom Arias claimed...okay I shot him because he body slammed me for dropping his camera - and by the way I am was an abused woman."

Totally destroying the credibility of this was the fact that the gun used on Travis was the same as one stolen from ARIAS'S grandmother a month prior to the crimes just when he began dating another woman. Arias also could not recall the 30 stab wounds she made with a kitchen knife all over Travis's back, legs, his  feet and his  hands as he fought to fend off the knife. She finally cut his throat from behind him as he lay in his hallway bleeding to death from a heart wound..

Attractive now librarian - looking, the lawyers gave arias a Marm- like  makeover underscoring her natural beauty her once platinum dyed hair now was jet black natural, often held back with girls barrettes whilst donning prim blouses and reading glasses for most of her court appearances.

Her lawyers who always flanked her both one female and one male,  knew all  about jodi looks and how they could make the most out of them. Genderism alone was in their favor Jurys simply do not convict or put to death women as easily as they will a man guilty of the same crimes. Since they were aware that they were up to their necks in evidence against Arias.they threw her up on the witness stand clearly going for the lets make the jury so familiar with Jodi that they cant put her to death via Guilt!

They did what Casey Anthony's Lawyer did, so obviously guilty she having changed her story about missing Cay-lee from Nannies that didn't exist to her car that reeked of dead bodies occurring to her own mothers call to Police detract focus from the facts and re-focus the jury and the collective american consciousness on their clients mousy demure voice tapes of sex talk Arias taped possibly without Travis's knowledge and as she knew she was being taped her voice and demanor reeked of an all american sweet and innocent young woman.

Thankfully the Jury followed instructions to a tee and M s Arias was found guilty of First Degree murder a charge she told a television interviewer no jury would ever convict her of this!"

The Sentencing portion of Aria's trial  had to be delayed  while Arias "recovered" in the suicide watch ward of a mental institution connected to the prison.




Appearence Age Baby-face Causing Empathetic View towards surviving Boston Bomber!

Arias Released from Suicide Watch

The excerpt below is a series of observations made by two therapists that have closely followed the Travis Alexander murder trial. 

Their statements were taken from a Huffington Crime Post regarding Jodi Arias's various personality disorders, as seen by these two professionals -  and most importantly they sought to answer to the  question burning in so many peoples minds; how did these disorders that Arias clearly has come to culminate into the vicious murder of Travis Alexander?

There are other Borderline Personality disordered women and men that do not shoot stab and cut the throat of their ex boyfriends, indeed a boyfriend of such a short duration that one of Travis's closest friends described Arias as a "non issue in Travis's life" 

A clue to Arias's rage lays in this rather insensitive, and somewhat misogynistic off - handed remark by Travis's  best friend.

 Calling a woman that he knew that Travis was sexually active with
 a "non issue" was the same as saying Travis was ust using her. if this were the case, or if it even appeared to be the case, Jodi Arias was the wrong woman to woo make public their romance and then unceremoniously drop whilst beginning another relationship - was experienced by Arias as the ultimate betrayal rejection and abandonment.

The therapists basically echo my own theory that Jodi was   infatuated with Travis- love is something altogether different and as a Sociopath Borderline with Narcissistic tendencies she isn't capable of true intimacy: 

However Arias perceives herself "in love and that is all that mattered in a crime borne of jealousy and as you will read, some complicated mind machinations of a sociopath Borderline Personality disorder and as these Psychiatrists believe Narcissistic Personality disorder as well. 

As they point out its not unusual for someone to have more than one Personality disorder, giving us even more reason to begin learning about these oft - times volatile people living within our families communities online dating sites social media schools encompassing society at large. 

Excerpt from Hufington Post Article

"I think she went there prepared to kill and what probably happened -- and would be consistent with a sociopathic emotional outburst -- is he might have shoved it in her face about going with another women or something along those lines that triggered her jealously and she snapped. I think that's a very likely scenario," Bonn said.

And Bonn suggested the self-defense theory might not be too far-fetched -- at least to Arias' way of thinking.

"In her mind, she felt like the jilted woman," he said. "It's narcissism, [to] always see things from her perspective, her needs and her desires. In her mind, this really may be self-defense because she believes she was wronged -- 'How dare he be with another woman when he is hers?' Sociopaths create a reality that fits the event."

Bonn added, "The rage and retribution demonstrated by the brutal slaying of Travis is very consistent with the emotional volatility of a sociopath. In her narcissistic mind, Travis deserved to die for betraying her."

Wendler agreed with Bonn, saying individuals like Arias will blame the victim for "deserving their fate."

"These individuals may have a grandiose view of themselves and be arrogant," she said.

The last few paragraphs that Bonn and Wendler commiserate about, is something that many victims of violent crime having survived their ordeals, struggle with the most.

Morally, as well in a place deep down in our souls, we simply cannot wrap our heads around this subhuman lack of conscience that defines the sociopath- he or she would seem have a lack of empathy hard wired into them. Yet they are subversive enough to hide this from the masses recognizing that healthy good intention ed people, most of their peers, family members etc possess empathy and consciences - and naturally, it is thus expected of them.

A s such they will create the guise of normalcy in this and other important key human traits, usually during the late teens to early adulthood when the young evolving sociopath is considered a 'conduct' or op positional- defiant"  disordered (as the DSM  thus diagnoses qualities that closely resemble that of sociopathology prior to the age of 18 or 19. Some teenagers grow out of ODD others make that dangerous transition and in my opinion need to be mandated by the state Mental health boards and criminal justice system the very first time they cross the law.   (Thats another post for another day)

They often blame their victims even in crimes where the victim was a stranger; many a serial killer will claim they were cleaning up the streets killing prostitutes , "doing a favor for mankind" and other such rationalizations which they often truly believe. 

That's the most frightening part of this. 

Also common as it was in my own court case the perpetrator is angry at the victim for causing all this " trouble for his or her life - meaning that they've been thus arrested brought to court have to show up for hearings and even when they get an extremely lenient sentence such as probation or suspended sentences they'll undoubtedly continue to behave in a persecuted manner painting themselves as the victim. 

These are the qualities of personality disordered men and woman I finally learned the hard way not to use the same human measuring stick whilst trying to understand how could they think this or do that"  And for the family members of murder and or rape victims this lack of remorse is what often bothers them the most, as a mostly Judeo - christian society we are taught to believe in redemption and remorse; we want the perpetrator to be sorry, we will them to genuinely regret hurting,  or killing a fellow human being.

However we will be forever frustrated expecting this from people with Personality disorders, like Arias, Bundy, Komisarjevsky, they are another breed. They are not mentally ill - these are disorders of thinking and character. 

They are so much more common than anyone knows or understands and for this reason, we must begin to investigate for the sake of ourselves, our family our loved ones our neighbors. Crimes committed by that neighbor that looked or seemed so normal" are happening everywhere and more frequently - isn't it time we stepped up to the plate educating ourselves and our families about the spectrum of predators and how to deal with them if they cross our paths?

 Whole Communities are  forever changed by one sociopath or narcissists - and they do not wear signs talk to themselves hear voices The most dangerous Sociopaths speak well appear educated and harmless and as they age they hone their skills of seduction and deception.

Michelle Knight Cleveland Kidnap victims re-hospitalized

Amidst the joy of the rescues of the three young abducted women now comes the sobering reality of the extent of the damage inflicted upon them. Michelle Knight has been re-hospitalized as her two co-captives are home beginning their long healing process from years of sexual physical and emotional abuse at the hands of Arial Castro, her "alleged" kidnapper rapist assailant.

Michelle apparently was struck many times in the head throughout her long captivity, and as is often the case the damage from repeated TBI's takes a vicious toll on the survivor.

She has lost hearing in at least one ear and likely has balance issues and or vertigo as well for this area of the brain-stem and specific cranial nerves are all intricately attached to our inner ears and cochlear functions.

Being a survivor of a kidnapping assault having suffered a blitz style attack with severe head blows against walls floor and the hard edges of my attackers hands, I too received repeat TBI and  cochlear damage. The latter controls many functions of everyday life such as moving ones head and losing balance, visual disturbances as the ears and eyes work normally work in a perfect synchronicity .

Grocery stores where movement surround us become places to avoid as they bring a barrage of symptoms as do videos or movies with too much rapid movement that affects the eyes movement and a nauseating condition called nystagumus results.

My personal knowledge regarding the delicate inner workings of the brain, inner ear apparatus, as it relate to head injury and blows to the head face and temple regions was first known by my assailant a seasoned veteran of beating women, he knew how to damage a woman's brain, where to strike to render her helpless, and indeed how to leave permanent damage. I was told as I was struck :

" I am going to f --k  you up for life!!" and added "you will NEVER forget ME."  

It breaks my heart to know that any woman experienced even one bout of blows to her head and face as I did, but to learn that this young girl was repeatedly beaten over a period of years in this deliberately cruel and sustained fashion is devastating and infuriating.

Miss Knight seems to have have suffered the most abuse at the hands of he captor (or captors, as it has yet to be determined if the brothers are involved..) Perhaps she refused to submit as much as the other two kidnao victims did. All of them were sufferring from a type of stockholm syndrome where they are too afraid to run and or become emotionally emeshed via a life and death dependency.

Michelle was reportedly impregnated by her kidnapper a multitude of times and he pre meditatively caused miscarriage by kicking her beating her and starvation. He doctors are reporting that she will require re constructive surgery to her face due to the repeated blows and beatings. The face head and neck are the most common areas to be struck by predators of all varieties..

Needless to say Michellle's emotional wounds are as deep or deeper than her physical ones which are substantial. Her experience can be compared to that of a prisoner of war who experienced the most horrific torture. Now she is " home" and yet home is as alien to Michelle as one could possibly imagine.

Let us pray for this courageous survivor each and every day for she will need all of our collective prayers support letters and love. Never underestimate the power of prayer and acts of kindness such as sending a card or a gift and letting her know we are all thinking of her.

I will be praying for her doctors and therapists as well to give them the strength and wisdom to lead Michelle to comfort and healing.


ichelle Knight one of Cleveland Kidnap Victims re-hospitalized

Jaycee Dugard's Therapist shares tips with Parents to avoid Child abductions increase Awareness

"It’s a terribly scary, anxiety-provoking topic, but the worst thing [for a parent] to do is to stick your head in the sand. We need to help give our kids the skills to deal with a variety of challenges, [from situations] as rare as a stranger abduction or a non-family abduction, to [situations as commonplace as] dealing with coaches and dealing with unwanted approaches—and to be honest—sexual approaches and exploitation."

Rebecca Bailey (Jaycee Lee Dugard's Therapist)

The above caption was taken from an interview whose subject was teaching our Children about predators of all sorts ; abduction, abductors, child molesters sex criminals and increasing awareness for ourselves as adults. This particular portion of her interview correlates exactly with an "agenda of awareness" that I have long been pushing for via this blog, numerous writing projects and victim advocacy on State and National levels.


This is an important article and an unusual one in that it deals with prevention  of a variety of crimes and predation upon children women and yes even,men.  There are steps we can take as individuals and collectively, to stop this cascade of violence that we have witnessed growing at an alarming rate.

Each one of these "cases" has at its epi-center a veritable smorgasborg of victims that far transcends the literal " victim"  whose suffering bleeds into family members community and every empathetic human being that is privy to these crimes.

In recent years, not a week goes by without at least one major violent crime  occuring- typcially it is more than one.

Crimes against children touch us worse than any other because they are the epitome of innocence and vulnerability, but we  simply cannot afford our traditional view of "innocence" borne of fear rather than apathy - or the commonplace " it wont happen to me" mindset.

 If we want out children and future generations of children to survive be whole we must all create a huge shift in our approach to violent crime. Even the mass murders that have become rampant in this country over the last ten years have been unwittingly encouraged via our technological growth ie the internet and other media sources contribute by giving attention and a sick immortality to a brand of people that typically thrive off of this. 

 In fact many murderers, particularly young, be it a single murder or the mass and serial murders that are on the increase  are looking to be infamous, as they cannot or will not attain goals and success in the traditional sense of the word.

It has long been a contention of mine that we cannot afford to put our collective heads in the sands regarding  what makes  violent crime tick - any more - . A commitment to end  apathy borne of denial or discomfiture  regarding this ugly side of humanity must begin now. 
Ignorance of any kind  equates with putting our children and ourselves in harms way this has been proven over and again, this  a  zealous commitment to arm ourselves with awareness is  the answer:

Research folks! Read and delve headlong into all information online, many websites provide information re predators and personality disorders in laymen terms rather than academic nomenclature that many people get lost in.  Focus on Men and women with personality disorders and most are not diagnosed this includes Sociopaths narcissistic PD  Borderlines personally disorders and several others that can exhibit dangerous behaviors that often slowly show themselves to the people closest to them first .

And then there are those on the periphery of our lives or strangers who are high risk offenders against children for abduction sexual exploitation etc. All of these subjects need to taught to adults before the children in their lives can learn about these life and death issues which can often be difficult to understand and to broach in a balanced and cohesive way which doesn't frighten or harm the child or teen Burt rather empowers them.

Italicized text below excerpt from Time Online

Rebecca Bailey is a psychologist who has helped families like Jaycee Dugard’'s reconnect again after abductions and other abusive situations through a group called Transitioning Families. She is also the co-author of a forthcoming book called Safe Kids, Smart Parents, due out July 2. On May 7, the day after three women who had been missing for about a decade were finally found alive in a home near downtown Cleveland, Bailey talked to TIME about how parents can protect their children from potential abductors and abusers by talking early and often about appropriate interactions with strangers. Ultimately, Bailey says “the inspiration for this book came from Jaycee and her family, and the realization that these non-family abductions often are unpreventable, and nobody should feel blamed.” 

How can parents make sure an incident like the Cleveland kidnapping ordeal doesn’t happen to their families?

It’s a terribly scary, anxiety-provoking topic, but the worst thing [for a parent] to do is to stick your head in the sand. We need to help give our kids the skills to deal with a variety of challenges, [from situations] as rare as a stranger abduction or a non-family abduction, to [situations as commonplace as] dealing with coaches and dealing with unwanted approaches—and to be honest—sexual approaches and exploitation.

Read more: http://newsfeed.time.com/2013/05/08/avoiding-abduction-3-tips-from-jaycee-dugards-therapist/#ixzz2Sr8N26LZ

Blood Found at Michigan Gas station where Jessica Heeringa was abducted/ Sketch released By Police

Police investigating the disappearance of Jessica Heeringa, the Michigan woman abducted in late April during her shift at a gas station, have said that the suspicious substance found at the scene where she vanished is her blood. 

'The substance has been confirmed as blood,' police said in a statement released today. 'Based on a subsequent DNA analysis, the blood has been confirmed to be from Jessica Lynn Heeringa.' 

Police said that there was only a small amount of blood located at the Norton Shores, Mich., Exxon gas station where Heeringa was working on a late shift. The 25-year-old mother of one was within moments of closing the station when she vanished. 

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Police have revealed that Jessica Heeringa's blood was found at the gas station where she disappeared

Heeringa's family has been notified that her blood was found at the scene, police said. 

Last Tuesday police released a second video in the hope that it will help lead to a breakthrough in the mystery of a mother who went missing on April 26.

The video, police say, more clearly shows traffic in the area, including a silver minivan that police have been in search of as they've continued trying to unravel this mystery.

Jodi Arias Found Guilty ! Fox News Link

The fact that Jodi Arias was so shocked that she was convicted of first degree murder is so very telling; We have all read and heard the rumor that Arias has claimed repeatedly albeit unofficially that no jury in the world is going to convict me of murder"!

While these statements were never completely verified, I personally believed that this was absolutely credible given that Arias clearly has anti-social personality disorder" IE she is a Sociopath as well I have oft mentioned in earlier posts that she shows many symptoms of Borderline Personality disorder also. These two make for a very bad combination in anyone especially an attractive woman using her attractive looks and sexual power as a type of lure and weaponry.

I will be elaborating upon the verdict and the upcoming penalty phase and Arias's professed preference to be given the death sentence as opposed to a long prison sentence. She might even be using this as a reverse psychology tactic with the judge and jury stating that death is the ultimate freedom"

Arias has spent years pursuing religious teachings almost always emulating whatever man she was dating at the time. She began life with her familial roots as a non denominational christian and as she had a series of long term relationships she traversed into the teachings and life styles of Buddhism,   Wiccan,  Christianity, Jehovah witness,  and most recently she became baptized by Travis Alexander into the Mormon faith, which she continued to profess herself as after she and Travis officially broke up their relatively short term relationship.



Below is a portion of Fox News Article - link can be found at the bottom

Jodi Arias says she would rather receive the death penalty than a long prison sentence after she was convicted of first-degree murder Wednesday, calling death "the ultimate freedom."

In an exclusive interview with MyFoxPhoenix.com, Arias says she was shocked by the verdict.

"I think I just went blank," Arias said. "I just feel overwhelmed. I think I just need to take it a day at a time. It was unexpected for me. There was no premeditation on my part."

Arias spent 18 days on the stand sharing intimate, emotional and oftentimes X-rated details of her life before a rapt television and online audience. She had hoped it all might convince a jury that she killed her one-time boyfriend, Travis Alexander, in self-defense.

However, the eight men and four women on the panel didn't buy it, convicting Arias of first-degree murder after only about 15 hours of deliberations. Jurors will return to court Thursday to begin the next phase of the trial that could set the stage for Arias receiving a death sentence.

Arias says she would "prefer to die sooner than later," rather than spending the rest of her days behind bars.

"Longevity runs in my family, and I don't want to spend the rest of my natural life in one place," Arias told MyFoxPhoenix.com. "I believe death is the ultimate freedom and I'd rather have my freedom as soon as I can get it."

The stations reports that after the interview was made public, Arias was moved into a jail psych ward under 24-hour suicide watch. She will not be allowed to give any other interviews at this time. 

The case elevated the unknown waitress and aspiring photographer to a household name, with a real-life story of love, betrayal and murder far more alluring than any made-for-TV movie. The crime itself was enough to grab headlines: Arias, a 32-year-old high school dropout, shot Alexander in the forehead, stabbed him nearly 30 times and slit his throat from ear to ear, leaving the motivational speaker and businessman nearly decapitated.

She claimed he attacked her and she fought for her life. Prosecutors said she killed out of jealous rage after Alexander wanted to end their affair and planned to take a trip to Mexico with another woman.

Arias' four-month trial quickly became a media sensation -- ratings gold for cable networks that could broadcast from inside the courtroom and feed an insatiable public appetite for true-crime drama delivered live and up-close. It was, for many, the horrible train wreck they just couldn't turn away from, even though they know they should.

Arias fought back tears as the verdict was announced Wednesday in the hushed, packed courtroom, while Alexander's family members wept and hugged each other. They wore blue ribbons and wristbands with the words "Justice For Travis." The family thanked prosecutor Juan Martinez and a key witness and said it appreciated the outpouring of support from the public.

Outside, a huge crowd that had gathered on the courthouse steps screamed, whistled and cheered the news in a case that has attracted fans from across the country who traveled to Phoenix to be close to the proceedings.

Alexander's friend Chris Hughes said he was happy with the verdict, pointing out a bold proclamation that Arias made in one of her jailhouse interviews that she wouldn't be found guilty.

"She said, `No jury would convict me. Mark my words.' This jury convicted her," Hughes said. "Luckily we had 12 smart jurors. They nailed it."

When asked about Alexander's family, Arias told the station, "I just hope that now that a verdict has been rendered, that they'll be able to find peace."

The Maricopa County Sheriff's Office said no more media interviews with Arias would be granted. She has been placed on suicide watch.

Testimony in Arias' trial began in early January. The trial quickly snowballed into a made-for-the-tabloids drama, garnering daily coverage from cable news networks and spawning a virtual cottage industry for talk shows, legal experts and even Arias, who used her notoriety to sell artwork she made in jail.

The trial now moves into the so-called aggravation phase during which prosecutors will argue the killing was committed in an especially cruel, heinous and depraved manner that should allow jurors to consider the death penalty. Both sides may call witnesses and show evidence. If the panel finds the aggravating factors exist, the trial then moves into the final penalty phase during which jurors will recommend either life in prison or death.

Despite her comments about wanting to die, it's up to the jury to decide whether to recommend death.

Authorities said Alexander fought for his life as Arias attacked him in a blitz, but he soon grew too weak to defend himself.

"Mr. Alexander did not die calmly," Martinez told jurors in opening statements.

Arias said she recalled Alexander attacking her in a fury after a day of sex. She said Alexander came at her "like a linebacker," body-slamming her to the tile floor. 

She managed to wriggle free and ran into his closet to retrieve a gun he kept on a shelf. She said she fired in self-defense but had no memory of stabbing him.

She acknowledged trying to clean the scene of the killing, dumping the gun in the desert and working on an alibi to avoid suspicion. She said she was too scared and ashamed to tell the truth. However, none of Arias' allegations that Alexander had physically abused her in the months before his death, that he owned a gun and had sexual desires for young boys, were corroborated by witnesses or evidence during the trial. She acknowledged lying repeatedly before and after her arrest but insisted she was telling the truth in court.

Arias spent 18 days on the witness stand describing an abusive childhood, cheating boyfriends, dead-end jobs, a shocking sexual relationship with Alexander, and her contention that he had grown physically violent.

A defense expert later testified that Arias suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder and dissociative amnesia, which explained why she couldn't recall much from the day of the killing. Another defense witness concluded that Arias was a battered woman.

Martinez worked feverishly to attack the credibility of the defense experts, accusing them of having sympathy for Arias and offering biased opinions.

Aside from her lies, Arias had another formidable obstacle to overcome.

Her grandparents had reported a .25-caliber handgun stolen from their Northern California home about a week before Alexander's death -- the same caliber used to shoot him -- but Arias insisted she didn't take it. Authorities believe she brought it with her to kill him. The coincidence of the same caliber gun stolen from the home also being used to shoot Alexander was never resolved.

Meanwhile, the entire case devolved into a circus-like spectacle attracting dozens of enthusiast each day to the courthouse as they lined up for a chance to score just a few open public seats in the gallery. One trial regular sold her spot in line to another person for $200. Both got reprimands from the court, and the money was returned.

Many people also gathered outside after trial for a chance to see Martinez, who had gained celebrity-like status for his firebrand tactics and unapologetically intimidating style of cross-examining defense witnesses.

The case grew into a worldwide sensation as thousands followed the trial via a live, unedited Web feed. Twitter filled with comments as spectators expressed their opinions on everything from Arias' wardrobe to Martinez's angry demeanor. For its fans, the Arias trial became a live daytime soap opera.

Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/us/2013/05/08/jury-convicts-jodi-arias-of-first-degree-murder/#ixzz2SoWP7KvL

Jodi Arias Personality Disorders Looks can be Deceiving

This Jury looks right past Jodi Arias's demure affectations, her Peter Pan collars and strategically worn Barrettes. They hopefully have taken note of her when she forgets to "act" the vapid soulless eyes that often turned in without a moments notice to a  bitter and hateful stare - this when some testimony or witness got too close to the truth
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Within this entire trial Arias's eyes are usually encased behind her cleverly procured for the occasion non prescription librarian "glasses". If the jurors pay attention to such things they will notice oddly Araias reads next to nothing and thus reading glasses are obviously a prop.

I hope the jurors have paid close attention to those eyes and her entire arranged face for that matter when a witnesses testifies about something that puts her in a bad light or even witnesses she dislikes such as Travis Alexanders other Girlfriends testify. Here we have seen actual unabashed stares.
there is no doubt she is an Sociiopath and thus an actress albeit transparent at times.

.Months and months of this drawn out trial has only insured  all evidence indicates that she pre-meditatively murdered Travis Alexander in a drawn out brutal fashion simply because she could not " have him" - and she would be damned if another woman "won"

The Alexander family needs not only a guilty verdict for Travis, they also deserve the appropriate sentence. which can only be what Arizona Law dictates for cases with such aggravating factors and zero mitigating factors, despite what this defense is most assuredly going to trot out for us.

What this murder should teach us is that women can be as dangerous as men - or worse in some cases because of societal mores and beliefs re women's non violent natures their weaker physical prowess add attractiveness and personality disorder to the mix and we have an extremely volatile person often laying in wait.

Unfortunately we are still programmed as a society to not think of women as potentially violent dangerous or life threatening. This needs to change. Sociopaths come in all shapes and sizes and when attractive this makes them more dangerous whether male or female.

At the very first sign of stalking, over the top possessiveness and certainly destruction of property whereupon one even suspects someone they are dating.might be guilty anyone and everyone must report the incidents to police and follow through:  ie Travis Alexander's tires were slashed twice when he began dating a different woman following his break up with Arias.

Tragically he did not follow up with Police regarding that tire slashing incident as well as a second tire slashing and an episode where his home alarm went off while his new girlfriend was over his house.

In the latter incident Travis and his new gal pal investigated and no one discovered within the house. Again, pursue the incident to Police creating an incident report and tell police your suspicions and stay away accordingly.

These seemingly small decisions are often the ones that can become life and death decisions within a relationships where one party albeit unbeknownst to the other party has a personality disorder. Yet these are the symptoms of such disorders and must be taken extremely seriously!

Travis did call Police back at some juncture to set up a follow up meeting about the tires slashing but  police were unable to reach him by phone when they tried to follow up on the complaint. This might be the same reason that women in stalking and partner violence situations,begin to waver about making official reports because the offender either reinserts them-self in their life or seems to go away and the victim doesn't want any waves.

In this case Alexander had begun a rekindling of a purely sexual clandestine relationship with Arias and obviously he saw the acts as nuisances rather than the flashing red danger signs that they were..


This is something that is all too common-place for women but we are not used to seeing this happen to/ with men. ie  Many women who have been battered, abused or threatened within relationships, will recant reports made to Police - as well as prosecutors and/or judges, if the crimes have made it to the court system.

This is due to a constellation of reasons, most prominent of which is the " battered woman's syndrome" a term coined by Lenore Williams a pioneer inn the field of abusive relationships and men that domestic predators. Ms Williams who has been interviewed about this case, has websites and several books worth reading and they may just save the life of you or someone you love.

The basic synapses of the syndrome in very very  is that within abusive relationships whether physical, emotional abuse or both, there are often high volatile episodes that involve either direct violence, which includes things like punching walls, blocking doors and threatening which too many teenagers and women don't see as violence. But in Arias's case, it was a relatively very short highly charged union that soured quickly when Arias's ant social behaviors began to surface.

Surreptitious acts of destruction of property and stalking behaviors such as the house alarm being triggered when a new girlfriend was at Travis's house Too often the victim if female is fearful but even if she is angry the same rules apply whereupon the aggressor will follow such acts up with" honeymoon period" where especially if the person has been hit or battered the batterer goes into a mode whereupon they realize they must reel back in their victim/ partner and they will use extremely solicitous behavior uncharacteristic affection, they might cry and be apologetic give gifts etc. In Arias's case, she used what she knew worked in the past - sex as a palliative measure, temporarily making him, the victim in this case, forget how serious this predation by Arias really was. Behaviors like this tend to escalate they rarely disappear, especially if one continues communicating with the disordered person.


Arias being a consummate psychopath used what she knew was Travis's weakness -albeit with his Mormon faith he seemed to carry a guilty conscience about his sex with Arias and sex in general.

It certainly appears that although highly sexual with Arias Travis Alexander had a mindset that she was dirty or bad for engaging in the things that he himself desired and almost perpetually pursued with her. Ironically, it would appear that part of his disdain for Arias might have been that she was too sexual despite the fact that he enjoyed it physically  At the same time, his religious teachings created a guilt which he transferred onto Arias once calling her " the perfect whore" etc.

Those words and other from Travis were from taped phone conversations, text messages and emails between Travis and Arias when the two were at the height of their dating / sexual relationship.Arias claims that Travis knew she was taping some phone calls as an aphrodisiac they could share replaying at some later date but this remains to be seen.

I have heard a few tapes and in at least one, Travis seemed to preface by saying lets start with normal life stuff and go from there" This leaves me to believe that he knew that at least one conversation was being taped but again his language was rife with trepidation conflict shame - experimenting with taping phone sex with Arias certainly was against his  Mormon dictum and his sex drive were pulling him in two directions.

This was a young man extremely conflicted about sex and women. According to arias after sexual relations with her from the start he would supposedly be cold and distant immediately afterwards. This supports a shame and disgust with her for being a willing participant to his desires. That shame, guilt transposed itself as disgust and coldness to Arias who became enraged eventually because she had hoped to use sex as a lure a way to"guarantee that she won Travis over by fulfilling his every sexual need and playing the "whore"

After the two broke up Arias undoubtedly figured she'd use her feminine sexual wiles as a way to
A)foist herself back into Travis's space and life. Once he'd begun dating other women and she perceived rejection and abandonment this is when I believe Arias got her grandmothers gun and began contemplating killing Travis. The phony robbery she set up at her grandmothers was 8 weeks prior to Travis's murder. Once she learned that Travis had changed the name on what had once been her ticket to Cancun Mexico, a trip Travis and friends had planned for months, Arias decided that if she didn't win him back and knock the other women out of his life, she was going to kill him.

On the day of the murder Arias posed nude in provocative sexual photos either during or after their daily sexual encounter. Several photos of Travis were taken where he looked somewhat apathetic for his part and not posing but rather in repose on his bed.

My guess is that Travis was immediately regretting having spent the time with Arias despite the fact that he willingly had sex with her. His face in the first shower photos looks annoyed. Some say he looks frightened, perhaps Arias was brandishing either a gun or knife at that point.

My first impression of the full face photo was that he looked annoyed with her, probably not wanting Arias to be taking his photos in the shower. The sex was over and he probably wanted her out . Even when times were "good" between the two Arias claims and this I do believe, that Alexander was always cold after they had any sexual relations once refusing to kiss her goodbye because he hadnt showered off the "lovemaking".

In Arias mind Travis was in full post sex mode and with the break up and the slashed tires things these qualities were probably exaggerated Travis was " washing her off of his body"

Remember he was readying himself to go on a trip with another woman and had just had a days sex romp with his ex girlfriend, a woman none of his friends approved of and indeed they all thought she was guilty of the tire slashing s on Travis car that had happened twice within two months period,
No-one was supposed to know he was physically involved with Jodi Arias.

The camera Arias used on Travis in the shower that ultimately caught a shot of her leg dragging his bloodied body was the same very expensive new Sony that he'd purchased for the Cancun trip (. It listed for 3800 dollars.)

Arias claimed in her third version of the crimes that Travis yelled at her for dropping his camera and body slammed her. This I do not believe at all.  She claimed Travis got angry easily throughout their union  and this has been verified by other women that dated him, although none reported physical violence except Arias. But.... Travis at 30 years of age had not had long term relationships and as such we don't know if there is any truth to her claims that he had a short fuse.

 She claimed in her last statement to police that she scratched a CD that belonged to Travis during that sex romp murder day and that he had begun to berate her his anger escalating adding that his dog ran out of the room at the first sign of his masters temper. She added that this was a common happening when Alexander lost his temper. I hate to say it but this detail of that day amidst all of her lies, sounds as if it might be the truth; Animals do often run when their owners get angry, and if the owner has had the dog or cat for any length of time. and a habit of angering easily or often this makes a lot of sense.

I do think from what I can garner about Travis Alexander that he appears to have been a somewhat brooding or depressed young man. Many of his of the photos of him show a forced half smile that doesn't appear natural. At first I thought it was because the photos were taken by Arias or they were together in the photos. Then I saw a slew of photos of Travis before he met Jodi Arias and there was that same telltale These include family photos vacation photos and others. As I've said I do feel that Travis Alexander had some emotional and or psychological issues that we may never be fully aware of in hindsight.

Friends certainly don't want to speak critically of someone who has been violently victimized in a murder, not to mention, people in general simply aren't aware of subtler aspects of adult psychology, it is just not a part of our collective conscience.

However, with all of the violent crime that has befallen our nation, our societies, mental illness personality disorders are beginning to receive a bit more attention as its become painfully clear via repetitive violence that if we are to stop this escalation of violent crime,  everyone needs to take responsibility for increasing their own awareness and knowledge regarding all aberrant behaviors, not simply "mental illness" as some vague culprit. There are personality disorders that have nothing to do with mental illness. They are completely different than say bi polar and other mood  disorders, much less things like Schizophrenia and true mental illness where voices and hallucinations often occur.

We can no longer afford to be apathetic regarding all psychological disorders and conditions that make the likelihood of violence that much more likely. More often than not the people that commit singular brutal partner violence like this have shown symptoms that others have ignored or not taken seriously enough . The same can be said of mass murders serial murderers pedophiles and child abductors and murderers to terrorists of the domestic variety ie partner violence.

What is not the answer is the existing  trend  borne of fear and ignorance -  withl the media often guilty of spreading misinformation which can lead to prejudice of anyone who is different behavioral wise; This has led to  lumping brain syndromes such as Autism/ Aspergers with completely different mental illness or mood disorders, usually ignoring the statistically most dangerous anti -social personality disorder aka ie a sociopath. also known as a psychopath.

 We are just not used to females especially ones that are attractive and carry themselves with a girlish demeanor  Do not be fooled. Women can be extremely dangerous narcissists and sociopaths - ie think Carla Homolka, one of the worst sociopath serial rapist/ murderess in Canadian history;  Blonde, blue eyed and pretty, she helped her fiance, also blonde attractive  rape and kill first her own sister who was 14, then four teenagers who carla would lure into thier car asking directions, kidnappe at knife point and helf them for days in their middle class suburban home torturing and raping them together before murdering them and disposing of their bodies in horrible fashions.

Carla Homolka is now a free woman and word is she moved to the united states after giving birth to a child after her prison sentence was over. Shed perceived a plea deal based upon flipping on her husband and claiming battered women syndrome as the provocateur of her participation  Years later video tapes surfaced that her lawyer had in his possession showing the rapes of 7 women and homolka completely enjoying herself torturing these innocent young girls acting as director not some fear filled compliant victim in her own rite as shed managed to convince a prosecutor and a jury years prior. By the time the tapes surfaced the plea deal had been made homolka was in a minimum security prison where photos showed her in evening dresses partying with other women in the " prison"  .

Sociopathology is undoubtedly one of the personality disorders that Jodi Arias has it involves a lack of empathy and true conscience. It has been bandied about that arias is also a borderline personality disordered women which as an armchair researcher I'd say BPD is on the mark as well; Arias fits about 9 of the required symptoms in the DSM .- which is the bible for mental illnesses personality disorders and brain syndromes.(One can find it online kindle or at a good old fashioned bookstore.)

One of the key features of borderline Personality disorder which women seem to have 10 times more than men, is a lack of depth, chaotic personal lives especially relationships, a propensity to swing to extremes, deep seated insecurity and lastly and most importantly fear and loathing of perceived imagined or actual rejection.

The lesson that we can all take from this terrible murder is to acquire as much knowledge about the symptoms of personality disorders, there are a gaggle of them, including narcissism which have the potential to make for dangerous relationships, be it romantic, workplace friendship or family.

High is the time that our society makes this knowledge mandatory for all people, starting with our teenagers as the enter the world of dating.

I personally kneww nothing of this until almost being killed by a sociopath who I didn't recognize as such. Years after the crimes I felt the need to validate what had happened and began this journey of research and awareness, my mind and heart intent on helping others to not make the same near fatal  mistakes borne of simple innocence and ignorance..

We cannot afford to be "innocent" any longer. While Personality disorders do not immediately equate with violence. There are a bevy of them including more innocuous ones such as dependency Personality disorder, avoidant P- disorder etc, but A handful such as Sociopaths Narcissists Borderline Personality disorders do carry a much higher statistical likelihood of committing  violent behavior.

At the very least, the most dangerous higher functioning PDs often cause constant upheaval in the lives that they intersect with as well they will  more often commit criminal behaviors such as fraud, theft destruction of property, stalking,assault and murder. The common thread of a lack of true empathy and  a self centered psychological mindset a gift for manipulating and deceit combine to make these people  not only violent but parasitical volatile and leaving the bewildered people who have had the misfortune of being related to them working with them or simply accidently " befriending them, with their own lives in turmoil having been a victim even without violence.

The answer: is to aqauint yourselves with this entire realm of psychiatric disorders; these people are everywhere in our day to day lives and because we are pre- programmed to think of murderers rapists and batterers as dripping with eccentric behaviors and appearances that  are " different" this is ridiculous.  The most dangerous blend in.

There are many good websites re Personality disorders that explain in laymen terms the key features and warning signs etc of  such persons.. We cannot afford the ignorance we have allowed ourselves any longer.


 Learn from this horrible murder, Our future generations safety and wholeness depends on how we choose as individuals and a society to inform ourselves first and then lay the foundation of our newfound awareness regarding the slightest of  character nuances of persons who are likely to commit crimes like this and or many other destructive behaviors that can maim our children's lives. 

Travis Alexander's Text To Jodi Arias - Business Insider

Travis Alexander's Text To Jodi Arias - Business Insider

"I want you to understand how evil I think you are"

This was part of a text to Travis Alexander to Jodi Arias two days before Arias set up a staged robbery at her grandmothers; her grandmothers 28 caliber gun was coincidentally stolen" during said Robbery"

Arias figured that Travis has seen through her perfected rehearsed act, a  classic sociopath she used whatever behavior she thought would get her what she wanted Using voice appearance even vocabulary and a feigned persona to entrap whomever her latest victim/ target is. In this case it was Travis Alexander, who for months has dated Jodi Arias and had begun to see some behaviors and actions that made him extremely uncomfortable worried and angry. He was angry at his privacy being perpetually invaded by the overly possessive Arias who obviously had expected her openness with her sexuality to be a shoe in in catching the prize -  Alexander .

Realize however that none of this incessant desire to be near and possess has anything to do with true intimacy or love; Sociopaths and borderline Personality's are incapable of true mature connections. Although the two Personality disorders differ greatly they have in common what many personality disorders do a selfish immaturity that is akin to narcissism and can become enraged easily if they perceive rejection abandonment or competition even. This can apply to sexual relationships romantic relationships work and family and any other situation where more than one person is in a what they perceive as competition with them - for anything.

Obviously after the tire slashing and some other stalking behavior by Jodi Arias despite his obvious attraction to what was a very pretty blonde curvaceous woman, the worrisome behaviors as well the lack of depth and the self centeredness had begun to wear on Travis and he'd been pulling away for some time according to close friends and family.

This set Jodi Arias's mind off on a murdered plot; if he was going to reject her and in such a humiliating fashion, shed gotten baptized into Mormonism in an effort to " win him over" she entered into a highly sexual relationship that went against all of the teachings that Alexander himself was supposed to be abiding by. According to arias Travis claimed at first that the types of sex they had didn't count and compared him to Bill Clinton who basically told the american public that oral sex didn't count as sex" in her statements to police when she finally admitted that yes she killed Travis but couldn't recall anything except shooting him in self defense"

This of course is ludicrous because medical examiners have stated that poor Travis was shot with a 28 caliber gun ( same as Jodi's grandmas missing gun) after he was already deceased because he did not bleed from the bullet wound to his head showing that his heart had already stopped when the shooting occurred.

It was sheer overkill. Arias had stabbed Travis multiple multiple times apparently chasing him from the shower to the sink where he forensics point to him either spitting up or spraying his own blood into the sink. He was stabbed so many times in his back and even the back of his head that the common belief is that Jodi was behind him chasing him with a knife and perhaps a gun, the gun might have been used to hold Travis at bay while she threatened taunted or informed him of the many things he'd done to deserve what she was about to do. This is my theory.

In the middle of that series of pictures that Jodi Arias took of Travis in his shower washing off all traces of the sexual session the two had just had - and that's how she undoubtedly viewed the shower as shed hoped the sex would sequeway into the two reuniting and Travis deciding to take her to Cancun after all. He had originally planned to take her months back but changed the ticket to another woman's name after their break up and the subsequent tire slashing s home alarm event etc.

Travis seems to be unaware o uninterested in the first few photos arias took he appears to be simply washing himself and not posing. Then at some point he looks at Arias and this is the photo that's become somewhat famous as Travis's face registers either extreme displeasure fear or anger or all three.
From there he begins to almost pose as if someone is holding a gun to him - we see him unnaturally crossing his arms as if to protect his heart or perhaps someone arias ordered him to in order to insure he wouldn't escape or try to take the gun or knife. Then at another point in the photos Travis is literally sitting down in the shower in an extremely unnatural way that I immediately assumed Arias had ordered him to sit.

The next bunch of photos were willy nilly and I'm certain reflected a struggle in one Arias dropped the camera and her clothed leg was seen in a pool of blood and Travis bloody body can be seen being dragged! That shot was obviously an accident with the camera going off as she might have dropped or slipped with it.

There was also a picture of the ceiling of the shower with the recessed lighting fixture another accidental shot while arias no doubt was struggling with either Travis or his body.

The photos are one of the things that make this murder so unique and awful. We literally are walked through a day of a sociopath who  planned to murder her ex beau using sex as a surefire method to enter his space; I think in Arias's demented mind she was giving a small leeway that if Travis wanted to be her boyfriend again and invited her to the Cancun trip , she may have chosen not to kill him.

However well never know. The fact is she dyed her hair dark brown from its usual platinum blonde just before she made the trip to Travis's home. She also rented a car asking for bright red from the rental agency a strange request as her own car was light colored and it thus seems again she was attempting to
hide the fact that she had been there. The stolen Gun really sinks her and solidifies the pre meditative angle with this murder. The gun that she shot Travis with was never recovered thus no definitive match could be made with her grandmothers stolen same caliber handgun. Yet its very damning evidence and much too coincidental along with the hair change the car and the fact that she drove straight to an ex boyfriends house after the murder surprising him with her new appearance as a dark brunette.

He told police that she had cuts on her hands with bandages and like OJ claims she cut herself on a glass"  At that point police hadn't questioned arias and by the time they did the cuts had healed.

Supreme Court denies Jodi Arias' request to set aside the option of a death sentence

Lets hope this attitude continues throughout the penalty phase of this trial.

This murder demands the death penalty; I pray that this Jury looks right past Jodi Arias's demure affectations, her Peter Pan collars strategically worn Barrettes. They hopefully have seen the empty vapid soulless eyes of Jodi Arias, the same ones that she usually keeps encased behind her cleverly procured librarian "glasses".

I have watched this women s face as witnesses testify as evidence is shown of her victims slashed body and there is no doubt she is an Sociiopath and thus an actress albeit transparent at times.

.Months and months of this drawn out trial has only insured  all evidence indicates that she pre-meditatively murdered Travis Alexander in a drawn out brutal fashion simply because she could not " have him" - and she would be damned if another woman "won"

The Alexander family needs not only a guilty verdict for Travis, they also deserve the appropriate sentence. which can only be what Arizona Law dictates for cases with such aggravating factors and zero mitigating factors, despite what this defense is most assuredly going to trot out for us.

If this case should teach us anything, it is that women can be as dangerous as men or worse as they have  less threatening appearances. Unfortunately we are still programmed as a society to not think of women as potentially violent dangerous or life threatening. This needs to change. Sociopaths come in all shapes and sizes and when attractive this makes them more dangerous whether male or female.

At the very first sign of stalking, over the top possessiveness and certainly destruction of property whereupon one even suspects someone they are dating.might be guilty anyone and everyone must report the incidents to police and follow through:  ie Travis Alexander's tires were slashed twice when he began dating a different woman following his break up with Arias.

Tragically he did not follow up with Police regarding that tire slashing incident as well as a second tire slashing and an episode where his home alarm went off while his new girlfriend was over his house.

In the latter incident Travis and his new gal pal investigated and no one discovered within the house. Again, pursue the incident to Police creating an incident report and tell police your suspicions and stay away accordingly.

These seemingly small decisions are often the ones that can become life and death decisions within a relationships where one party albeit unbeknownst to the other party has a personality disorder. Yet these are the symptoms of such disorders and must be taken extremely seriously!

Travis did call Police back at some juncture to set up a follow up meeting about the tires slashing but  police were unable to reach him by phone when they tried to follow up on the complaint. This might be the same reason that women in stalking and partner violence situations,begin to waver about making official reports because the offender either reinserts them-self in their life or seems to go away and the victim doesn't want any waves.

In this case Alexander had begun a rekindling of a purely sexual clandestine relationship with Arias and obviously he saw the acts as nuisances rather than the flashing red danger signs that they were..


This is something that is all too common-place for women but we are not used to seeing this happen to/ with men. ie  Many women who have been battered, abused or threatened within relationships, will recant reports made to Police - as well as prosecutors and/or judges, if the crimes have made it to the court system.

This is due to a constellation of reasons, most prominent of which is the " battered woman's syndrome" a term coined by Lenore Williams a pioneer inn the field of abusive relationships and men that domestic predators. Ms Williams who has been interviewed about this case, has websites and several books worth reading and they may just save the life of you or someone you love.

The basic synapses of the syndrome in very very  is that within abusive relationships whether physical, emotional abuse or both, there are often high volatile episodes that involve either direct violence, which includes things like punching walls, blocking doors and threatening which too many teenagers and women don't see as violence. But in Arias's case, it was a relatively very short highly charged union that soured quickly when Arias's ant social behaviors began to surface.

Surreptitious acts of destruction of property and stalking behaviors such as the house alarm being triggered when a new girlfriend was at Travis's house Too often the victim if female is fearful but even if she is angry the same rules apply whereupon the aggressor will follow such acts up with" honeymoon period" where especially if the person has been hit or battered the batterer goes into a mode whereupon they realize they must reel back in their victim/ partner and they will use extremely solicitous behavior uncharacteristic affection, they might cry and be apologetic give gifts etc. In Arias's case, she used what she knew worked in the past - sex as a palliative measure, temporarily making him, the victim in this case, forget how serious this predation by Arias really was. Behaviors like this tend to escalate they rarely disappear, especially if one continues communicating with the disordered person.


Arias being a consummate psychopath used what she knew was Travis's weakness -albeit with his Mormon faith he seemed to carry a guilty conscience about his sex with Arias and sex in general.

It certainly appears that although highly sexual with Arias Travis Alexander had a mindset that she was dirty or bad for engaging in the things that he himself desired and almost perpetually pursued with her. Ironically, it would appear that part of his disdain for Arias might have been that she was too sexual despite the fact that he enjoyed it physically  At the same time, his religious teachings created a guilt which he transferred onto Arias once calling her " the perfect whore" etc.

Those words and other from Travis were from taped phone conversations, text messages and emails between Travis and Arias when the two were at the height of their dating / sexual relationship.Arias claims that Travis knew she was taping some phone calls as an aphrodisiac they could share replaying at some later date but this remains to be seen.

I have heard a few tapes and in at least one, Travis seemed to preface by saying lets start with normal life stuff and go from there" This leaves me to believe that he knew that at least one conversation was being taped but again his language was rife with trepidation conflict shame - experimenting with taping phone sex with Arias certainly was against his  Mormon dictum and his sex drive were pulling him in two directions.

This was a young man extremely conflicted about sex and women. According to arias after sexual relations with her from the start he would supposedly be cold and distant immediately afterwards. This supports a shame and disgust with her for being a willing participant to his desires. That shame, guilt transposed itself as disgust and coldness to Arias who became enraged eventually because she had hoped to use sex as a lure a way to"guarantee that she won Travis over by fulfilling his every sexual need and playing the "whore"

After the two broke up Arias undoubtedly figured she'd use her feminine sexual wiles as a way to
A)foist herself back into Travis's space and life. Once he'd begun dating other women and she perceived rejection and abandonment this is when I believe Arias got her grandmothers gun and began contemplating killing Travis. The phony robbery she set up at her grandmothers was 8 weeks prior to Travis's murder. Once she learned that Travis had changed the name on what had once been her ticket to Cancun Mexico, a trip Travis and friends had planned for months, Arias decided that if she didn't win him back and knock the other women out of his life, she was going to kill him.

On the day of the murder Arias posed nude in provocative sexual photos either during or after their daily sexual encounter. Several photos of Travis were taken where he looked completely unsolved and not posing but rather in repose on his bed.

My guess is that in atypical fashion Travis was immediately regretting having spent the time with Arias despite the fact that he willingly had sex with her. His face in the first shower photos looks annoyed. Some say he looks frightened, guessing that Arias was brandishing either a gun or knife at that point.

My first impression of the full face photo was that he looked annoyed with her, probably not wanting Arias to be taking his photos in the shower. The sex was over and he probably wanted her out . Remember he was readying himself to go on a trip with another woman and had just had a days sex romp with his ex girlfriend, a woman none of his friends approved of and indeed they all thought she was guilty of the tire slashing s on Travis car that had happened twice within two months period,
No-one was supposed to know he was physically involved with Jodi Arias.

The camera Arias used on Travis in the shower that ultimately caught a shot of her leg dragging his bloodied body was the same very expensive new Sony that he'd purchased for the Cancun trip (. It listed for 3800 dollars.)

Arias claimed in her third version of the crimes that Travis yelled at her for dropping his camera and body slammed her. This I do not believe at all.  She claimed Travis got angry easily throughout their union  and this has been verified by other women that dated him, although none reported physical violence except Arias. But.... Travis at 30 years of age had not had long term relationships and as such we don't know if there is any truth to her claims that he had a short fuse.

 She claimed in her last statement to police that she scratched a CD that belonged to Travis during that sex romp murder day and that he had begun to berate her his anger escalating adding that his dog ran out of the room at the first sign of his masters temper. She added that this was a common happening when Alexander lost his temper. I hate to say it but this detail of that day amidst all of her lies, sounds as if it might be the truth; Animals do often run when their owners get angry, and if the owner has had the dog or cat for any length of time. and a habit of angering easily or often this makes a lot of sense.

I do think from what I can garner about Travis Alexander that he appears to have been a somewhat brooding or depressed young man. Many of his of the photos of him show a forced half smile that doesn't appear natural. At first I thought it was because the photos were taken by arais or they were together in the photos. Then I saw a slew of photos of Travis before he met Jodi Arias and there was that same telltale These include family photos vacation photos and others. As I've said I do feel that Travis Alexander had some emotional and or psychological issues that we may never be fully aware of in hindsight.


Friends certainly don't want to speak critically of someone who has been violently victimized in a murder, not to mention, people in general simply aren't aware of subtler aspects of adult psychology, it is just not a part of our collective conscience.

 However, with all of the violent crime that has befallen our nation our societies, mental illness personality disorders are beginning to receive a bit more attention as its become painfully clear via repetitive violence that if we are to stop this escalation of violent crime,  everyone needs to take responsibility for increasing their own awareness and knowledge regarding all aberrant behaviors, not simply "mental illness" as some vague culprit. There are personality disorders that have nothing to do with mental illness. They are completely different than say bi polar and other mood  disorders, much less things like Schizophrenia and true mental illness where voices and hallucinations often occur.

We can no longer afford to be apathetic regarding all psychological disorders and conditions that make the likelihood of violence that much more likely. More often than not the people that commit singular brutal partner violence like this have shown symptoms that others have ignored or not taken seriously enough . The same can be said of mass murders serial murderers pedophiles and child abductors and murderers to terrorists of the domestic variety ie partner violence.

What is ot the answer is a scary trend I've noticed of late borne of fear and ignorance -  and  as usual the media is guilty of spreading misinformation that can lead to prejudice of anyone who is different behavioral wise lumping brain disease such as autism and aspergers syndrome with completely different mental or mood disorders all the way to the statistically most dangerous anti social personality disorder ie a sociopath. also known as a psychopath.

 We are just not used to females especially ones that are attractive and carry themselves with a girlish demeanor  Do not be fooled. Women can be extremely dangerous narcissists and sociopaths - ie think Carla Homolka, one of the worst sociopath serial rapist/ murderess in Canadian history. Blonde blue eyed she helped her fiance kill her own sister and 3 other teenagers whom the pair kidnapped and held for days in their middle class house before murdering them and disposing of their bodies.

Sociopathology is undoubtedly one of the personality disorders that Jodi Arias has it involves a lack of empathy and true conscience. It has been bandied about that arias is also a borderline personality disordered women which as an armchair researcher I'd say BPD is on the mark as well; Arias fits about 9 of the required personality symptomology in the DSM .- the bible for mental illnesses personality disorders and brain syndromes.

One of the key features OF BORDERLINE Personality disorder which women seem to have 10 times more than men, is a lack of depth, chaotic personal lives especially relationships, a propensity to swing to extremes, deep seated insecurity and lastly and most importantly fear and loathing of perceived imagined or actual rejection.

The lesson that we can all take from this terrible murder is to acquire as much knowledge about the symptoms of personality disorders there are a gaggle of them including narcissism which have the potential to make for dangerous relationships be it romantic workplace friendship or family. Nigh is the time that our society makes this knowledge mandatory for all people, startling with our teenagers at age appropriate levels. I personally knew nothing of this until almost being killed by a sociopath who I didn't recognize as such. Years after the crimes I felt the need to validate what had happened and began this journey of research and awareness with my mind and heart intent on helping others to not make the same near fatal  mistake borne of simple innocent ignorance.

We cannot afford to be "innocent" any longer. While Personality disorders do not immediately equate with violence, ( there are a bevy of them) but several of them such as Sociopath Narcissists Borderline Pds etc do carry a much higher statistical likelihood of committing  violent behavior.

At the very least many will cause constant upheaval in the lives that they intersect with as well they will  more often commit criminal behaviors such as fraud, destruction of property, stealing, stalking assault and murder, than people who do not have dangerous personality disorders.

Investigate this entire realm there are many good websites in laymen terms that explain the key features warning signs etc of  such persons.. We cannot afford the ignorance we have allowed ourselves often because it simply doesn't seem to apply to our lives Learn from this horrible murder, pass the knowledge to your ge appropriate children adult and even teenagers. Our future generations are depending on us to lay the foundation of a new necessitated awareness about people who commit crimes and may not fit the image we have painted of " the bad guy"

Arizona Supreme Court denies Jodi Arias' request to set aside the option of a death sentence - NY Daily News