Jul 28, 2012

Victims of Colorado Gun Violence names should be our focus

These are the people who were killed in the Colorado movie theater shooting.

I would like to suggest that their names and their lives, as well the names and health of the injured  become the names that as a society we choose to speak of and focus upon.

I say this because like everyone else out there, I  am deluged with the media driven  mantra of this killers name, splashed across every headline, News program and  and the Web, since this man-made tragedy happened.

I understand the almost reflexive need  to understand what kind of human being could wreak this
type of  mass violence upon our brothers and sisters, and why. But what I am speaking of is sensationalism - greedily repeating  this killers name, showing his face which is exactly what he/they excpect and it feeds these losers that committ murderous rampage in order to garner attention and fame that they cannot achieve in any constructive fashion. Hence a big part of the why?"

I've read some Op-eds opining thier pet stances: Many are saying that Gun control is certainly a big part of this crime and others that resemble it such as columbine shootings.  Others are chastising PEOPLe for this opinion pointing at the "real culprit"  "our  disregard for mental illness," which they assert, the colorado murderer obviously sufferred with."

(  I suppose that writer believes it is easier for us to weed out and forcably treat every mentally ill person rather than make it extremely difficult or impossible for them to buy body armour and semi-automatic weaponry with relative ease.)

I have poured over the information available and once again I must reiterate: personality
 disorders are not mental illnesses.  One look at the killer's match.com page and his photo therein, compared to the over circulated and obviously - affected (for the public the court, media's cameras)  wild eyed crazy person with a 'what am I doing here?" look on his frightened looking countenance... A layman can see a huge disparity in these photos, body language expression everything.

This disparity doesn't mean the killer has multiple personalitys, what it does indicate is a cunning individual, highly manipulative, deceptive  already setting the stage for an insanity defense. He knows that there are legions of  well intentioned suckers, many armed with PHD's, that cannot differentiate schizophrenia from socio-pathology, and not having scads of exposure to the latter, can never truly understand that Sociopaths and other personality disordered people have moral disorder, a lack of conscience, an obsession with self, these are not mental illnesses.

The match.com profile and photo reeks of arrogence and self absorption  narcissism and misogyny, even going so far as to say " would you visit me in prison?"

 Undoubtedly he was is looking for attention and prematurely desiring and counting on that bizarre yet predictable syndrome whereupon otherwise intelligent women take up the causes of  stone cold killers, often even marrying them in prison. At the very least these men often develop a gaggle of empathetic groupee types.  Again pre-meditation and attention mongering.

And our media is aiding and abetting this.

I suggest we do our part to nip all of this in the bud. For starters there should be a ban on this killer's name. This man who dressed himself in full armour, lest he get injured  by police or a gun toting moviegoer in the fray. Let;s stop giving this man and other predators what they hunger for; attention and  ( fleeting) fame.

The lasting legacy belongs to the men and women who died in Aurora Colorado and the many people that acted heroically in the midst of  violence and terror.

The victims in Aurora Colorado. May they all Rest In Peace...

Jonathan T. Blunk, 26

The Navy veteran and father of two pushed his girlfriend under a seat for protection, she told NBC’s “Today” show.

Alexander J. Boik, 18

The recent high school graduate planned to attend Rocky Mountain College of Art and Design in the fall. He enjoyed baseball and pottery, his family said in a statement to Denver’s ABC 7.

Jesse E. Childress, 29

The Air Force staff sergeant was a reservist on active duty at Buckley Air Base a few miles from the theater, serving as a cyber systems operator with the 310 Force Support Squadron, the Air Force said. He was single and had no children.

Gordon W. Cowden, 51

From Centennial, Colo.

Jessica N. Ghawi, 24

The sports journalist and graduate of the University of Texas at San Antonio had recently escaped a mall shooting in Toronto.

John T. Larimer, 27

The Navy petty officer third class with the cyber command of U.S. 10th Fleet was stationed at Buckley Air Base. The Crystal Lake, Ill., native was athletic and excelled in recent volleyball and kickball tournaments at the base, a fellow sailor said.

Matthew R. McQuinn, 27

The recent Denver transplant from Ohio worked at a local Target with his girlfriend, Samantha Yowler, who was injured by the gunman. McQuinn was struck three times as he shielded Yowler from gunshots.

Micayla C. Medek, 23

Medek was a community college student and restaurant worker, according to the Los Angeles Times.

Veronica Moser-Sullivan, 6

The youngest victim of the attack died of her wounds in a hospital. Her mother was listed in critical condition, according to the Associated Press.

Alex M. Sullivan, 27

Sullivan worked at the Century Cinema and was celebrating his 27th birthday at the theater, his cousin said. He was a passionate Colorado Rockies fan and loved cooking and comic books.

Alexander C. Teves, 24

The Phoenix native recently graduated from the University of Denver with a master’s in counseling psychology, according to the school. His girlfriend wrote on Facebook that Teves saved her life in the theater.

Rebbecca Ann Wingo, 32

Wingo was a waitress and mother of two, according to the Denver Post.

Rest in Peace.

Jul 24, 2012

Colorado Shooter causes massive trauma and grief in one night of fantasia based sadism/

This heart wrenching random cache of violence has been etched into my mind and my heart for days now.
 I have close family members in this area, which adds the startling reality that had a few minor circumstances simply been tweaked this way or that, I could easily be grieving one of my own, as well as the twelve whose lives were so senselessly taken.

So many images are unshakable: A woman clutching her baby to her bosom, a scratch on her cheek from the mayhem. The smoke had just cleared, yet she was remarkably calm, stunned yet aware enough to feel relief -   her child  was in her arms, both of them whole.

Others were not as fortunate.

A man who had reported to the area school where family members of known movie attendees had been told to gather, was seen desperately looking for his son, who had attended the premiere. His understandable anger turned to utter despair as he found out that his son was among the twelve victims who had lost their lives in the mayhem.

The image of this strong burly man grief stricken as he found out his son was gone, will never leave me.

Apparently there were many acts of heroism that night; one young man, his peaceful friendly face in a family photograph lingering in my minds eye, apparently dove at the armored shooter, in an effort to shield his girlfriend. His girlfriend survived with a bullet wound to her ankle, but the courageous young man, with the easy smile, died of  multiple gunshot  injuries. He was twenty four years old..

Another young man, just out of college, pushed his girlfriend under a theater seat as the shooting began. He too perished at the scene from Gunshot wounds..

And a third young man, quickly lay on top of his girlfriend's body, as the shooting began, not only saving her life in the process, by blocking gunshots that he sustained, but remaining calm enough to assuage her fears in those last moments, according to the crying young girl, he kept whispering " shhh it will be alright ..."

My feelings about these heroic actions, are a juxtaposed mixture of awe, admiration and a deep grief over their reflexive selflessness and courage at such tender ages.

There were many heroes in Colorado that fateful night; some saved  the lives of strangers with quick action, some taking bullets themselves in the process: As more information is gathered more stories will be related and we will honor every one of them..

For now, our prayers for the survivors, some clinging to life in area hospitals, are desperately needed.

Besides reaching out to the survivors and the  families of the victims, through letter and emails.  I always suggest prayer, I have witnessed it's collective power, especially when more than one person gathers to pray for someone's healing.

No matter who your God, or your belief system is , prayer is a pure practice and its power is undeniable - it comes from goodness,compassion and love..

This is not about religion -  it is about humanity and tapping into those qualities that supersede everything that is swirling around our day to day lives,  We quickly see it's meaninglessness when tragedy's like this happen.

Godspeed to every single survivor and thier families.. Rest in Peace brothers and sisters who perished you will forever be heroes all.

Jul 14, 2012

The GE Petit Family Foundation 5k Raceday Sunday!

Last Call Everyone!

Come join the fun Tomorrow, Sunday, July 15th, downtown Plainville for the fifth annual "GE 2012 5k Race-day"!

The Race day has attracted over 5000 people in recent years and this in some of the hottest humid weather we natives have seen in decades! However,, a near- miraculous spirit of charity and communityoutreach have consistently outweighed practical nuisance such as a bit of unseasonable heat.

In fact The 5K" Raceday" has become one of the biggest fund raisering events sponsored for the impressive  Petit Family Foundation , a non profit charity that sole survivor William Petit Jr. formed in the wake of the by now infamous tragic  home invasion that took the lives of his wife Jennifer and his two daughters Hayley and Michaela.

 It is in their honor and thier memory that the foundation was formed and it's mission and subsequent focus culled.  Eleven year old Michaela Petit unwittingly chose the Petit family foundations slogan " Be the change" when it was discovered that her favorite quote that she listed upon her facebook page was
" You must be the change that you wish to see in this world" wise words spoken originally by Mahatma Gandhi. A deep thinker Michaela at the tender age of eleven, clearly an altruistic giving young girl these qualities that her father has proudly injected into the

The 5K Raceday is one of the biggest annual fund raising events for The PFF, they expect over 8,000 participants this year, some seasoned runners train for months while others walk in an aerobic style walk athon, and children partake in a special age appropriate gaggle of races. Then there are a veritable slew of good hearted people who show up early  to volunteer, and dozens of local businesses that donate goods and services.
Many folks come to show their support by simply being there enjoying some food  drink company and the sense of  coming together for a really important cause.

The race will be the same 3.1 mile course as last year, starting at 9:00am on Route 10 in front of McDonald's and finishing in front of the Plainville General Electric facility on Woodford Ave. There is a fitness walk (1.3 mile course) for any non-runners who would like to join in the fun, along with a Kids Fun Run (at 8:30am) which is free for all children 8 and under! There will be tons of food & beverage vendors, a massage tent, and a raffle with 6 incredible prizes including a MacBook Pro Laptop, iPad, and Gas Gift Certificates!

Again this year, the fun will begin the day before the Race, Saturday, July 14th. For those who have registered by the 13th, pre-registration pickup will be available from 12:00pm-4:30pm. Runners and walkers can come to the race site to pick up their bibs and tee shirts on Saturday to avoid common "race day lines".

 Also this year, there will be a pasta dinner from 5:00pm to 8:00pm on Saturday the 14th at the GE grounds! Adult tickets are $5 and children 12 and under are FREE! Live music will be performed and there will be a lot of great door prizes and giveaways!

This event was created in honor of Jennifer Hawke-Petit, Hayley Elizabeth Petit and Michaela Rose Petit.

Note from the Foundation

*All proceeds of the GE 5k Road Race assist the Petit Family Foundation in achieving our mission of: fostering the education of young people, especially women in the sciences; to improve the lives of those affected by chronic illnesses, and to support efforts to protect and help those affected by violence while continuously honoring the precious lives of Jennifer, Hayley and KK.


Fore more information or to register online, visit the PFF web site - The Petit Family Road Race

Jul 13, 2012

GE 5k Race Benifiting The Petit Family Foundation July 15th!

It's that time of Year again! One of the biggest Petit Family Foundation events ever, and one of the very first fundraisers
held to honor and raise money for this great non-profit organization.

So, whether you're a runner, a walker or just looking to participate in a wonderful charity event,  follow the link below for directions and details, and come on out Saturday July 15th for a great time and an important cause!

Along with the 5K running course which is the focal event, there are heaps of  other activities for both adults and children, including a walk-a thon a special race for kids, lots of great food and most importantly, a buzzing energy of community outreach, positivism and love:

All kinds of folks from every walk of life have come from every corner of the state to take part, and a good many out-of state participants   They share at least one common desire - hoping to make a positive difference in this world, and our community. In the words of Michaela Petit they are  aspiring to " Be The Change" 

ie * You must be the Change that you wish to see in this world" 

        Michaela Petit's Favorite quote upon her Facebook page.

* Proceeds from the event are used by the Petit Family Foundation to help victims of violent crime and those suffering from chronic illness. The Foundation honors the memory of Jennifer Hayley and Michaela Petit carrying forward the legacy of thier kindness, thier activism, and their faith.